So I am in Bayview Marriot Hotel in Newport Beach for a mastermind for entrepreneurs. It always feels good meeting people who are also actively driving their journey of growth. The positive energy that we build on each other is nothing short of amazing. Do you actively seek out people that encourage you to grow? Do you have a supportive community that makes you feel safe?
Just now, we had a fancy candlelight dinner with champagne to reward ourselves for the hard work we have put in. There, I met a millionaire who owns several businesses in the country. We chatted for a bit, minutes later, he was trying to convince me to be part of his business. I am still considering it as I have a lot on my plate right now. How many of you realize that it is a good problem to have – to have opportunities just knocking on your door? You can bet, the reason he was so eager to invest in me was because I put into practice the methods I shared in science to make anyone like you. This would have never happened to me five years ago.
How can you make someone more receptive to you in a social setting? One method I use is called the Familiarity Trick. So, you can go to a party and say hello to everyone there. Don’t engage in long conversations yet. Just greet everyone and occasionally give them a compliment on something you observed about them. And then go back again to talk to the people you are interested to get to know you better. I guarantee they would be more receptive to you the second time. It is a hack that makes their brain believes you are no longer a stranger because they have seen you before.
I am super pumped for tomorrow.
Tears were streaming down his cheek. And I saw the pain in his eyes. It was heartbreaking to see a grown man cry.
Last night, I was having a beer with my good friend John. Initially, he didn’t intend to tell me what happened. But the story slowly unfolded. His wife cheated on him. And he felt betrayed and devastated.
You see, he is a house-husband. Every day, he cooks for his kids and packs food for his wife. He takes care of the kids while his wife brings home the dough. He felt that he put in so much effort for the family only to be betrayed.
This is not the first time it happened. But he felt helpless. He has been married for seven years. He has been at home for so long, he doesn’t even know how to meet people and date anymore. He is not sure if women would still find him attractive.
I sat there and listened. Then, I asked him to do an exercise with me. In fact, let’s do the same exercise I did with him yesterday. Write down ten things you would do to show love to your loved ones. Yes, pause this email and write it down. Come back when you are done.
Now, look at the list. Instead of doing it for your kids or spouse, you are going to do for yourself. It can be anything from getting a massage, going on a holiday to buying a pair of shoes.
So often we neglect to love the most important person in the world. You. So I want you to commit to check one thing off the list tomorrow. And schedule three more of that in the future.
To becoming the best version of yourself,
p.s.: I have created a step-by-step video series that tells you exactly what to say and do from the moment you meet a stranger until you leave a good impression – just for the price of a coffee -$4.95. Click the link below for more information:
Science to Make Anyone Like You in 7 Seconds