So I am in Bayview Marriot Hotel in Newport Beach for a mastermind for entrepreneurs. It always feels good meeting people who are also actively driving their journey of growth. The positive energy that we build on each other is nothing short of amazing. Do you actively seek out people that encourage you to grow? Do you have a supportive community that makes you feel safe?

Just now, we had a fancy candlelight dinner with champagne to reward ourselves for the hard work we have put in. There, I met a millionaire who owns several businesses in the country. We chatted for a bit, minutes later, he was trying to convince me to be part of his business. I am still considering it as I have a lot on my plate right now. How many of you realize that it is a good problem to have – to have opportunities just knocking on your door? You can bet, the reason he was so eager to invest in me was because I put into practice the methods I shared in science to make anyone like you.  This would have never happened to me five years ago.

How can you make someone more receptive to you in a social setting? One method I use is called the Familiarity Trick. So, you can go to a party and say hello to everyone there. Don’t engage in long conversations yet. Just greet everyone and occasionally give them a compliment on something you observed about them. And then go back again to talk to the people you are interested to get to know you better. I guarantee they would be more receptive to you the second time. It is a hack that makes their brain believes you are no longer a stranger because they have seen you before.

I am super pumped for tomorrow.

 

 

Tears were streaming down his cheek…

Tears were streaming down his cheek. And I saw the pain in his eyes. It was heartbreaking to see a grown man cry.

Last night, I was having a beer with my good friend John. Initially, he didn’t intend to tell me what happened. But the story slowly unfolded. His wife cheated on him. And he felt betrayed and devastated. 

You see, he is a house-husband. Every day, he cooks for his kids and packs food for his wife. He takes care of the kids while his wife brings home the dough. He felt that he put in so much effort for the family only to be betrayed.

This is not the first time it happened. But he felt helpless. He has been married for seven years. He has been at home for so long, he doesn’t even know how to meet people and date anymore. He is not sure if women would still find him attractive.

I sat there and listened. Then, I asked him to do an exercise with me. In fact, let’s do the same exercise I did with him yesterday. Write down ten things you would do to show love to your loved ones. Yes, pause this email and write it down. Come back when you are done.

Now, look at the list. Instead of doing it for your kids or spouse,  you are going to do for yourself. It can be anything from getting a massage, going on a holiday to buying a pair of shoes.

So often we neglect to love the most important person in the world. You. So I want you to commit to check one thing off the list tomorrow. And schedule three more of that in the future.

 

To becoming the best version of yourself,

Jalen

p.s.: I have created a step-by-step video series that tells you exactly what to say and do from the moment you meet a stranger until you leave a good impression – just for the price of a coffee -$4.95. Click the link below for more information:

Science to Make Anyone Like You in 7 Seconds

Can you make anyone like you in 7 seconds?

Before that, let me tell a short story about myself.

Years ago, I remember going to a party and feeling that I don’t belong. I stood there, feeling awkward. My mind started playing tricks on me. “I look stupid. They must think I am a loser”

I made small talk to the person standing next to me. But the conversation fizzled out faster than it started. I ended up holding on to my drink for dear life and standing at the corner of the room wishing I was back in my own apartment.

I was tired of making boring small talk that leads to nowhere.

I was tired of being a forgettable wallflower at a party or a networking event.

So, I started devouring books on human psychology and communications. I spent thousands of dollars on mentors and workshops. It wasn’t until I stumbled upon a Harvard professor when I found the answer.

Is it really possible to make someone like you in 7 seconds? 

Studies have shown that only 7% of any message is conveyed through words, 38% is through vocal tonality, and 55% is non-verbal (facial expressions, gestures, posture, etc).

Think of your last interaction with a stranger? How long did it take you to size him up? You might have sized him before he even speaks, by the way he dress, stand, move and his energy. That’s even shorter 7 seconds!

That’s not saying that what you say is not important. But more is at play here than just what you say.

How do you usually start a conversation with a stranger?

Do you ask him, “Where are you from?” If you do, that makes the conversation the same as everybody else’s. This conversation won’t become memorable to him. A different way to start the conversation is to just twist the question into a statement.

“You don’t look like you are from New York, are you?” Same question – asking where he is from but so much more for him to hook on. He will be curious why you think he is not from New York.

Interested to know more about my basic program on science to make anyone like you in 7 seconds? Click here.